There is an idea in the world that if you were born with certain tendencies that those tendencies are apart of you and should be embraced. This is a lie, whispered by the adversary.
Heterosexual members of the church should not be alarmed by such proclamations that same-sex feelings begin at a young age. Every member of the church felt attraction to sin when they were very young.
As a little girl I stood looking up at the rows of candy laid before me. Mom had moved on to the next aisle. It would be so easy to slip one of the delicious morsels into the pocket of my denim Osh-kosh overalls. As just a four or five year old girl I was overwhelmingly attracted to the sin of stealing. I was tempted. What if I had gone home and told my parents about the temptation that I had faced and they had said it was okay? They could have said that because I was so young and had obviously never been taught the feelings that I was having that I should embrace them. They could have told me that it was apart of who I am and that people needed to learn to accept that part of me. To do so would have shown a lack of love by my parents. Instead they taught me that to steal is wrong and that I need to vigilantly work to overcome that temptation.
Some reading this may be thinking “but the temptation to steal feels very different than the temptation of same-gender attraction.” I am not pretending to be coy. I understand this. Lets use the example of a comparable temptation that heterosexuals face every day in their daily lives.
My Father tells of being a 13 year old scout. Their troop volunteered to pick up trash along the road up Milcreek canyon in Utah. Each scout was dropped off along the road about every 1/2 mile. They would then walk along with a garbage bag working their way up the roadside picking up any garbage they saw. As the young scout wend his way up the beautiful canyon, he came upon a girly calendar tossed along the side of the road. He quickly picked it up and put it in his trash bag. As he walked, the temptation to get back in his bag to view the pornography was so great that he had to tie the handle of the partially filled bag and leave it along the road for the leaders to come and pick up.
What if he had decided to begin viewing pornography because he recognized that he was attracted to it? He may have thought back to other little experiences where he had felt similar stirrings in his heart and recognized that he was born with this tendency. His parents had not taught it. In fact they had strongly taught against it. What if he had allowed this temptation to define him? Perhaps he would’ve told his friends that he was a porn guy – not even because he viewed porn but because he saw that it was attractive to him. He could’ve said that they needed to accept him for who he was.